Dating my best friend's ex husband

Dating my best friend's ex husband

We humans have the ability to travel between our own two ears, come up with new ideas, imagine alternative worlds and encounter imaginary people. Also, I knew so much about their relationship. Franck Allais for the Guardian I split up with my ex a year ago and quickly started dating. Even the tiniest amount makes a difference. The more you do it, the better you get and the stronger you become.

All too often our mistakes do lie behind us. She and I were soul sisters, spoke on the phone for hours, had sleepovers all the time.

The chances of maintaining a friendship with her is unlikely, particularly if she is still dating your ex. She should not be the last to know and it should be discussed sooner than later.

However the forgiveness

The real betrayal is that of your best friend. However, the forgiveness part is work that you must tackle, for your benefit.

If you shrug off the guiltThe real betrayal

We are alert to anything that tries to buffet us backwards. The last thing you should do is secretly hide this romance from your best friend who it will obviously deeply hurt. She started to date this guy and four months after they broke up we started to see each other. Give her the courtesy of telling her the truth and you just never know. When I found out, I felt a rage I had never experienced.

If you have a dilemma, send a brief email to mariella. If you shrug off the guilt and set your sights on restoring your friendship I suspect at least two of you will be far happier.

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